So I am sorry this is so long but to shorten it up my soon to be ex husband has never been much of a father or husband which is why I left him (he said he didnt love or care about me the last day I was with him) I left over a month ago and he has yext me 2 times called to talk to our son once and then called tonight to ask to see our son for thanksgiving. Our custody hearing is dec 1st so I am thinking this is all for show… I alreayd had plans for thanksgiving and if he comes I will have to cancel them seeing as these particular friends really dislike him and i wont make them put up with him on thanksgiving. He told me he can not take my son from me like I did to him since paperwork is now drawn out but I am not sure if he is telling me the truth I have asked my lawyer and waiting for a response form her but I was curious what you guys thought… since he has never sent me a penny since leaving for our son never sent me not 1 thing for our son do u think I should allow him to see our son before the court date or just leave things the way they are with him not communicating barely ever and not doign a damn thing for our son.
I def dont trust him to ever be alone with my son! He wont get him for any amount of time alone. That sounds bad but when he doesnt get his way he throws a fit he is very controlling. it is def a double ended sword for court and i know that is why he is asking =/ So yea but thanks for all the answers I do appreciate them!
btw i did neglect to say my son is 9 months old so no he can not talk but he knows his dads voice or did… now he just is so happy and i dont wanna ruin tht

This passed year has been a rocky one for our marriage. My husband was very mentally abusive, sometimes physical. We separated for awhile while he went through extensive counseling and treatment through a psychologist hired from our church. As time passed and I felt like I could move in a forward direction with the marriage we got back together and things have been good so far. I pretty much figured there would be some alienation from his family members (who all live in another state) due to our separation. What I didn’t expect was the email from his sister that sounded like a threat or either trying to scare me, not sure which, but I detested her the moment I read it. She said, "I hope you know that there are attorneys who will help a man get custody of his children." I hated at that moment and that feeling - it’s not me. I realize that maybe she wrote it because at the time she was sticking up for her brother, but c’mon. At the time he was doing some pretty rotten things to his family, which I emailed her back and told her. She did not respond. I figured it was because she’d seen it all first hand before when their father abused their mother. (He was very mentally abusive). I now have tried to remain cordial to her through emails and hellos, she usually does one of two things; does not respond, or responds with a snide comment such as, "Can’t chit chat now."

My ex had until 8/07 to pay 20k for our divorce settlement. I received 20k He kept the house and the truck. So far he re financed the house twice, and this last month, sold the house. He still owes 9k but refuses to pay. Is there anything i can do?

My husband and I separated a couple months ago. I just found out i am 3 months pregnant. can i start getting child support or spousal support right now, while still pregnant. i only have a part time job and dont make enough for all my bills plus the doctor’s expenses. what can i do?

I’ll be going for mediation with binding arbitration regarding my divorce agreement. Am I correct that the parties can discuss all kinds of novel agreements during the mediation, but that if an issue goes to arbitration, the arbitrator will rule on the interpreting the original agreement? What if the parties are discussing a new, previously uncovered topic, and they fail to agree, can the arbitrator impose one of the proposals?

How can I find any father-friendly attorney in Pittsburgh? I am a father who wants to divorce and get custody of my little daughter.

Well after 4 years of marriage my husband and I have decided to call it quits. We have a 4 year old so who is special needs. i am wanting to go for Physical custody. I honestly believe that it is in my son’s best interest #1 my husband was gone the first 2 1/2 years of my son’s life and my son was happy and doing just fine then. #2. My husband hasn’t ever tried to even show up to any of my son’s IEP meetings or anything like that. #3 I think it would just be easier on my 4 year old.
Let me know if you think my argument is legitimate or not. or any advice would be greatly appreciated.
By the way I would never keep him away from his father. Even if we lived in separate states we’d come up with some kind of arrangement. My motive isn’t to hurt my husband and of course my husband understands that. Our son needs a stable environment. His therapists and teachers are behind me 100% My husband would be able to call whenever he wanted and would have routine visits. But I believe that I can make a more stable home and make keen decisions when it comes to my sons needs. Like I mentioned my husband has little to do with things like IEP meetings and therapy appointments. He is more fun and outgoing which is great but more is required.

I am divorcing, and have reached a settlement agreement, husband keeps house and buys me out. I will have a set amount to put down on new home in about 60 days, or sooner. I am trying to decide if it is better to buy right away or rent for 6 months. My fica score is not the greatest, mid 600’s, so I will pay off all bills to show no debt, raising my score in time. I am basically a first time buyer since last mortgage was only in husbands name. I was thinking maybe of renting, and putting down payment in 6month cd to earn interest. I am just really confused what to do, as I really wasnt expecting the divorce or a settlement. Thanks.

What is your take on how to deal with a divorce shared custody situation where one parent tells a young tween "don’t tell your (mom or dad)" about something they know the other parent feels is not appropriate or safe for the child to be doing?
I am not talking about anything illegal or something child services would deem unsafe, just something one parent doesn’t think is safe for the kid to do because of past situations that kid had, but the kid is still doing it at the other parent’s house with that parent saying "don’t tell your (other parent)".

What do you think about a parent telling the kid not to tell the other parent about something?
Alienation? Trust issues for that child in future relationships as an adult, among other things, are molded by early behavior and this seems highly inappropriate for one parent to knowingly tell the kid to not tell the other.

Thoughts?

can anyone advice me on this. i am trying for a friend to get some answers here. she isnt eligible for legal aid, needs a good divorce attorney. she is getting screwed by the soon to be ex. really would like to help her in any way.
there is a child involved in this, a house also, she has much to lose!

My wife and I are in FL (No-Fault State) and are doing mediation… First meeting today… We are hoping that this is going to be amicable. Looking for any one who has done this and to see how it went.

I have a 16 year old stepdaughter who lives with her mother. Her father and I have been estranged from her for about 8 years. That was the last time I saw her and my husband has only seen her once since and spoken to her twice.

Her mom is very vindictive and jealous and this alienation began when her father and me began dating. Then we got married and all contact stopped. The courts have done nothing to help and there is little they do, or can do if the custodial parent is hell bent on keeping the child away.

So anyway, my stepdaughter’s mom is now going through a divorce again. The ex husband has contacted us and said this lady has mental issues. She has complete control over the household and rages constantly.

My husband had a hearing with his ex recently over child support. He claims that she looked really unstable and came unglued many times during the hearing.

We are so concerned for this young girl. She has no one now except her mom and we can’t reach out to her. Some of you may say to try to go for custody but that would be a wasted effort. Her mom will say that she doesn’t want to see us (happened before) and that will be the end of it.

On the occasions that my husband has spoken to his daughter, she was nasty and cold. Although he said it sounded more like a speech. And likely, the crazy controlling mother was right by her side.

What can we do, if anything, to establish contact and let this kid know that we are there for her? We are in touch with the school counsellor, but she doesn’t seem too interested in the whole story and of course, she is busy with all the other students.

Has anyone else been through this, or any teens who have lived in the same circumstance? We need help!

I have been fighting a personal injury lawsuit for over 3 years and if I file for divorce is my husband entitled to my money?

I finally got my divorce from my husband who was deported to jamaica and my lawyer sent a copy of my divorce papers with my social security on it down to jamaica!!!

I called and asked him why would he do something so STUPID and he goes what will he (ex husband) do with your ss#?

*blank stare*

Can someone tell me what can I do to protect my Identity. I already have a fraud alert on my credit file but what can i do to protect other illegal activities such as getting documents in my name??

By the way anyone trying to get a divorce from someone who is in another country its very easy to do LIE and say you have a friend or relative going to that country your lawyer will give you papers that you will say your friend/relative will serve your UNWANTED spouse.

wait a month , call your lawyer and say that your friend/relative is back from their trip. The lawyer will then give the person some papers to have notarized stating that they served the UNWANTED spouse and then submit all documents to the court.

My divorce took 7 months that way and it was FREE through legal aide services.
OMG DUE PROCESS??? REAP WHAT I SOW HHAHAHAHA

Yeah he was due processing all over my @ss that’s why he is HISTORY NOW!! Sorry , I don’t sit around and take abuse!! I get to stepping and kicking jack@ssess to the curb!! You got to do what you got to do to gain FREEDOM!

Thanks Ed for your answer.

I have one friend who lives in philippines.she is married to a filipino guy who is US citizen and lives in sandiego state.the couple was living in US after they got married.but they could not adjust themselves well.actually her father and mother in law treated her very bad and her husband was also so cheap.they excluded her form all the rights she deserves.she decided to move back to philippines and live by herself.she gave birth of a boy who is now 6 months old and her husband now demands for child custody.now both of them fixed a divorce file and child custody.i just want to know if somebody can give me any information what’s the sandiego state law after getting divorce and who has more power about in winning child custody and who will get help about financial affairs.thank you.

I’ve been married 5 years. If we divorce will I have to pay spousal support to my unemployed soon to be ex-husband? We live in Florida.

My husband went through a nasty divorce about 10 years ago. He had always had a warm and loving relationship with his daughter. However, the mom got custody and moved out of state. He still had his biweekly visitations and everything was fine until the mom got remarried.

Then the alienation began. This is when we began dating. I remember his daughter being really normal at first, enjoying time with her dad, and having fun. Then she started to have an attitude. She stopped talking at the dinner table. She wouldn’t give hugs or kisses goodnight. And then saying she was being "forced" to see him and that he was taking all of her mom’s money (which was the total opposite). At 14, the mom said this girl did not want to see him anymore and he hasn’t since then. He’s only spoken to her a couple of times.

I think he held on to some hope for a reconciliation when she was old enough and out of the house. Now she is 19 and in college. She still refuses to talk to him. He got her cell phone number and has left messages several times and even sent her gifts.

I do know from my husband (although there are two sides to every story) that the mom was abusive when the girl was little and very controlling. The mom’s soon to be ex-husband has contacted us and has all kinds of crazy stories about her. Apparently, she is on anti-depressant medication and has openly cheated in front of her child. She took a cruise with her boyfriend and daughter before her husband even knew anything was going on.

So, my question is, why does a seemingly intelligent young women not question anything she has been told. She blindly believes it obviously and still thinks her dad is a bad guy. Will time make a difference or is this girl lost forever?

My husband of 5 years and I are divorcing. We are both professionals and we want to do this as "calm" as possible. I have no idea how to go about filling papers and such. He mentioned to me in a rant last night that he wants to stay in the house that we both own. I have no problem with that but basically his idea of separating is for me take my dvd’s and my clothes. I dont know how to react to this, I dont want to hire a lawyer (no war) but i’m scared, i have work a much as he has and Im terrified to end up on the street with no money to move on. We still owe a load of money on our house, Im so confused and honestly I dont want a lawyer because that will make things nasty. I live in Florida and have no children. Thanks a lot for your suggestions!

If an divorce is desired by one party, but the other that lives in Utah will not sign the divorce papers, is it possible to go through with the divorce without the other signing? What can be done?? BTW…there are 2 kids involved which i know is always a matter in divorce…can mediation step in to resolve the issues of the divorce without an attorney??

I live in Florida and filled for divorce back in April. We have mediation scheduled for the end of September. The problem is I don’t want this divorce to go through, and I know my husband would be willing to work on our marriage. Is there any way to stop this divorce from happening. Or is it to late.

My ex and I split last year, in July. Together we owned a house. When we split, I kept the house. I refinanced in October. During our ownership we were both on the loan, however, I am the primary account holder for that loan, and the mortgage interest was reported only under my name. Is it mandatory that I split the mortgage interest deduction with my ex? Part of the divorce settlement was that my ex had no further interest in the residence.

I have heard of cases where emergency temporary custody was awarded to the father because the mother was determined to be interfering with the relationship between the father and his child(ren). The reasoning was to prevent PAS. (Parental Alienation Syndrome)
We know that my husband’s ex is telling his 4 year old daughter lies about him when she goes back to her mom. She has come over here and told us that her mom says things like "daddy will beat me if I make him mad" "he isn’t my real daddy and he doesn’t love me so I don’t have to love him" "you and daddy are bad people so mom says I can’t like you" etc…
When he calls her (every night that she isn’t with us) to say goodnight she rarely talks to him. When she is here she is a chatter box to me and acts like my best friend. With her father, though, she is cold. She will sometimes forget and get really friendly with him. She’ll play games and stuff, but soon it is like she remembers what mom said and she acts like she is scared of him again. He has never done anything to hurt her. Even she says that she doesn’t know why she is scared of him except because mommy said he is mean.
In addition, the mother neglects the child. She has a poor diet and is generally unkempt with stained and ragged clothing. She always has a rash on her butt because they don’t wash her butt after she pees in her pull up. She wears them at night and they often don’t get changed until bedtime the next night.
Do you think this would hold up in court to give my husband emergency temporary or even permanent custody?